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I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and I've known him for 7 years. He lives with me. We're 5 years apart (I'm 18 he's 23. Yes, we got together when I was 16 and he was 21. That's a story for another time though) Anyway, that's just a little background info. He's over jealous and over dramatic when it comes to me hanging out with my girls. He calls them names ( not to their faces but still) and insults them. I have been friends with my bestie for 5 years now (off and on). Lately I have been going out with her and a couple friends every Saturday night and staying out all night with them and not coming home till the wee hours of the morning. This wasn't a problem (or so I thought) because everytime I left, (which was around 10pm on Saturday), he'd say bye and kiss me and everything was fine. I'd go out, have fun, come home and that's that.

He has shown issues in the past about me hanging out with friends and we have always struggled with this subject. I'll "ask" if I can go out, he'll say, "Yeah, sure. Whatever." Then I leave and get 23678231941 phone calls with him saying, "You never spend time with me. You just wanna go hook up with other guys and leave me home alone," and all that bullmalarky. Which isn't true! I just wanna go out and hang out with my friends for a little while. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and I have totally put him first in the friend department. Everytime we fight about it it's the SAME argument! You ready for a play-by-play?

Him-You don't love me. Me- YES I DO! What the heck is your problem!? Him- Then why don't you stay home with me? Me- I'm with you every night of the week! We go to sleep together, we wake up together, we eat together! Him-Yeah, what's wrong with that? You need space from me or something? Fine, I'll just pack my stuff and leave. Me- That's you're solution to everything isn't it? Just up and leave? Hah. Fine. Leave. I'm not playing this game. I love you and if you're happiest away from me, so be it. Him- SEE?! You don't even try and stop me? You don't want me anymore. You want your friends. They're higher up than me. Me- No, I always put you first. I can't do this anymore. I'm so over this. ECT.ECT.

Then he says how he is a jerk, sorry, and didn't mean what he says about my friends. He doesn't care when I go out, who I go out with. I just want you to not stay out all night because I have to sleep alone....blah blah. We've go through this once every 4 months. I don't care if he goes out because I trust him and so what if he stays out all night because I know when he does come home, he's coming home to me.

Wow. Long rant. Sorry. <3

Submit and Read Comments (4) Total Votes:0 - Deserves Another Chance(3)-He´s a Jerk!(3)

On 2007-09-30 08:13:50 - Others - by TypeAVampire

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Ummmmmmmm, wow he has insecurity problems. Can I make one recommendation? Maybe one night a month invite him out with you and your friends just so he can see how things really are when you go out? Maybe he will get so bored he will be happy you are doing it without him and he will stop his ranting.

	on 2007-10-01 09:11:26 by LostinSLC

I agree. Go into overkill mode on him. Smother him. He will want to you go out more. Maybe you have deeper issues at hand. Why does he feel the way he does. Talk to him. I bet it is more than about going out.

	on 2007-10-02 14:37:01 by Addy

The advantage of age---knowing how to be compassionate---willing to listen---willing to understand---willing to forgive stupidity---able to appreciate---able to adapt---patience---experience---willing to explore---diversity---and on and on. All of the good things, if one has matured,, that a younger woman needs, that she cannot find elsewhere. Life is over before it has begun for many women. They are "tossed" around while attractive, given lies and promises that can never be. In their youthful exuberance, they believe these "tools of deceit" and are led from bed to bed, never achieving their dreams of youth. Unless they remove these "dreams" and accept the truth of Life, they will spend their entire lives lonely and used and unfulfilled. Before they know it, they're middle-age, have nothing of any true value, have wasted the years and have a bleak future ahead of them. B--U--T---an older MAN will pick her up, put her on a Throne and allow her to finally know and experience REAL love and tenderness and understanding and acceptance for her inner feelings/needs! Whatever amount of time is allowed them, SHE will know herself, be herself and finally LIKE herself! Is not this worth the transition from foolishness to real acceptance? Life is SO short---accept the happiness while you can and STOP chasing the lies of others!

	on 2007-10-03 16:01:14 by Traveler

You are still young, so staying out really late is normal. I can understand your guy being jealous.. You say that you don't care if he went out all night, but if he did it as much as you and you were sitting at home, it would freak you out too. I agree with the advice given from LostinSLC, take him out with you once and a while and he will see what you guys are doing. I bet after a few times he will not want to go anymore.

	on 2007-10-04 06:41:12 by firegirl

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